In order to adopt a confident attitude, it is essential that you know how to respect a set of guidelines that we will detail below:
- Speak with confidence
“Do you mind if I say something, I just wanted to say, I’m sorry, I was wondering, I’m not quite sure but I think…” It’s obvious that someone who expresses himself in this manner does not convey confidence.
You should use expressions like: “maybe, I think, do you mind if?”, we transmit confidence with our words and the choice of words is important.
It may take some time, but we can learn new vocabulary and expressions that convey confidence.
How can you transmit confidence with your words?
- Through positive statements, avoid example denials by replacing certain words:
- “I can’t” with “I will”,
- “I have” with “I want”,
- “I should” with “I decide”…
- Use confident body language
Recent research shows that both the posture we adopt and our non-verbal language can affect our brain. If your body is uncomfortable, your mind is likely to be too. If you act confidently with controlled gestures and attitudes, your mind will also be confident.
Some very specific advice to keep in mind:
- Always stand or sit up straight.
- Keep your head up.
- Relax your shoulders.
- Distribute your body weight evenly between both legs.
- When standing, keep your hands and arms parallel to your body.
- Keep eye contact with those you are speaking to
- Smile when the context and theme allow for it.
- Speak slowly and not too loudly.
Practice these points until you can use them naturally in any situation.
- Have a confident image
How do you feel about your body? If you are the first one who doesn’t feel good about yourself or your body, it will affect your self-confidence.
Probably, if you compare yourself with other people, you will see imperfections in your body. But even people who may consider that they have a perfect body almost certainly do not consider themselves perfect and find fault with it.
How can you gain confidence with your body? Without a doubt, the best technique is not to try to change it but to accept yourself as you are even if it sounds like a cliché. Think about what your strengths and weaknesses are and don’t compare yourself. The charm and charisma you can give off does not depend at all on your body.
On the other hand, what you can work on is the personality that your clothes and the way you dress can transmit. Try to be yourself, respecting the social codes of your environment and your company, but make a difference. That you feel comfortable and that your clothes allow you to feel comfortable and safe.